No, it was perfect because finally, here he was. The guy who wouldn’t let me get away with anything. I always thought of that as the moment you can into focus. Like, “Oh, there you were.”
Life has been busy for me. Between internship and grad school, there’s been homework and babysitting. But despite the stress and weariness, these past eight months I’ve been lucky enough to have a partner by my side. Yes, Cubby and I are still together, and we actually just hit the eight month mark. Crazy, right? To be honest, it’s pretty amazing…but more on that later.
For the past three years, I’ve been using this blog to contemplate life as a single girl and attempt to figure out what that thing called L.O.V.E. was all about. I’ve written about the boys I’ve met and the adventures that I’ve had. I’ve opened up about my struggles with anxiety and depression and shared some of the most difficult and challenging moments of my life.
But now, I’m writing to tell you that I am very happy and very in love with Cubby.
Yes, this blogger of yours is completely in love with Cubby and honestly, I can’t remember life before his name. (Cue John Mayer song, City Love.) We are in a very good place and everything seems to be getting better and better. Knock on wood. To tell you the truth, it took me a while to fully realize that I was in love with him- mostly because it’s something I’m not used to.
He is A*MAY*ZING. He really is. But above all of his wonderful traits, he is great for me. And from what he tells me, I’m great for him too. We are good together, and we are very happy.
These last eight months have been very challenging for us, as individuals who are both trying to launch their professional careers and overcome the stresses of living life in the big city. But I honestly cannot imagine how I would have gotten through these last few eight months without him. He’s been by my side (literally) during my breakdowns and through a multitude of papers and assignments that sucked the life out of me. He’s been my rock. One of my best friends.
Above all, he has loved me, and allowed me to love him.
I’m not an avid American Idol fan, but I didn’t have to watch the show to see the amazing story of one of the auditioners, Chris Medina. The alarm went off on Thursday morning and I heard the story from the radio DJs. I opened the free daily paper only to see a little blurb next to his photo. And then later that evening, I finally got to witness the remarkable Mr. Medina and the Power of Love. If you haven’t yet seen nor heard this story, here it is. Do me a favor and watch this video. Let yourself be reminded of the important things in life and inspired by those special people who live by example.
Chris Medina at American Idol Audition
I don’t want to take too much about from these beautiful people and their story about true love. However, I’ve watched this segment twice now- with chills both times- and one thought keeps coming to mind: Isn’t this how love is supposed to be? Yes, Chris is A*MAY*ZING. That cannot be argued. But when you love someone, shouldn’t you already be committed to in sickness and in health? When you love someone, really love someone, don’t you want to be by their side on the good days and the bad? Wedding or not, aren’t these vows that you willingly stand by when you love someone? Isn’t this what love is all about?
My hope is that you’ll let Chris & Julie’s story inspire you and remind how true love should always be. ♥
~ Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale. ~
One of my little BFFs, Michella, asked me yesterday if there was a boy (in my life), to which I gave a blushing “Maybe… Kinda…I don’t know…I hope so” response. The 7-year old (going on 17) then requested, “Do you have a picture of him on your phone?” Now who am I to deny a little girl the right to join me in some innocent Facebook stalking, but with my phone locked up in the office downstairs I made the decision to forgo my stalker ways for the afternoon. “Maybe next week, Michella,” which I have a feeling she’ll hold me to.
She then asked me, “Well, is he a soft guy or a hard guy?”
Me: “He’s a soft guy. It’s impossible not to like him.”
Michella: “Good, then you’re going to be together. You just will.“
Let me reiterate that she Michella is only seven-years old. Is it not beautiful how children see the world? So pure, so innocent. Why does age persuade us to complicate the world when it is best seen with simplicity
? Michella’s optimism makes me See the World the Way it Should Be Seen
. And this, my friends, is one of the reasons why I love working with kids. They have this power to wipe the cynicism from your worn-out eyes with a single smile.
While it’s refreshing to hear a child’s optimistic point of view, especially on one of life’s precious matters, it may be best to hear the truth from one of your peers- someone who knows all about fantasy vs. reality. Someone who’s believed in those same dreams & fantasies, and experienced the joys sorrows that real life brings. Enter Dina. My dear friend and mentor. While our life stories have different characters and settings, somehow our personality traits and plots align quite nicely. So if I have to hear the truth from someone, Dina is definitely the one I choose.
After reading through her email this morning, which was in response to yesterday’s post
, this quote immediately popped into my head: Life itself is the most wonderful fairy tale of all. (Hans Christian Andersen)
To shine light on the reasons why her words touched me today, I’ll share this part now:
The key is to believe that it is possible and that you deserve it, and to allow it to happen when you do find it… and make sure that he knows what you are all about when you meet so there are no surprises.
She said more. Much more. But that’s for my eyes only. Okay I’ll share one more thing, that pertains to all my love confessions for (the fictitious, yet remarkable) Aidan Shaw. Dina’s truthful words spoke: The difference is that Aidan was an actor…Nittin (her husband) is the real thing. He deserves the “Aidan” crowning. He also deserves Dina’a heart.
The fact of life, Real Life
, is that there aren’t many Aidans in this world. BUT, thankfully, there are some out there. Aidans are Guardian
Angels disguised as humans, walking amongst us trying their best to fit in. However, they don’t blend in too well. In fact, they downright Stand Out
. Shine Brightly. Maybe even Sparkle a bit. The Lucky Ones catch their eye. The Worthy Ones are the only ones deserving of Their Love. It’s neither that Aidans are arrogant nor pompous, but it’s more that they know what they are looking for. They know they deserve the best and won’t stop until they find Her. For He Will Be Loved the Way He Deserves to Be Loved.
I wasn’t quite sure how to end this post, but I think I do now. Based on my experiences and those I observe, and those love stories that I crave, I’m going to make an assumption: We don’t always recognize a good thing when it’s right in front of us.
Speaking on behalf of myself and the ladies here, we grow up believing in those fairy tales and waiting for the fireworks to literally go off when we find Prince Charming. But the truth is, Prince Charming isn’t real. Aidan really is a character played by John Corbett. But boys like Nittin, Ken, and Nick are out there. They are real. They are the guys that we spend our life waiting for. But sometimes we’re so used to waiting that we don’t always realize when the real thing arrives. If you have any doubts, just pinch yourself. Let yourself know
that it’s real. Don’t waste any more time waiting. Remember that those Aidans don’t come around every day. If you have one, a real one, then don’t hold yourself back. I promise you if you don’t make him yours, then someone else will. ♥