Every now and then, I’m reminded of a post I wrote about a year and a half ago. It’s a post that many have thanked me for writing because it comforted them to know that someone else had experienced the same loss, pain, and heartbreak as they have. The post is called, Regrets and mistakes, they’re memories made. who would have known how bittersweet this would taste.(http://livelovelearnbreathe.com/2011/03/30/regrets-and-mistakes-theyre-memories-made-who-would-have-known-how-bittersweet-this-would-taste/), and I can tell you know that it’s nothing more than a memory from the past.
But I’m not here to write about the past… nor the pain one endures from a broken heart. Instead I am here to provide evidence that one can overcome heartbreak and learn to love again. Just like Jennifer Aniston, I, myself, am proof that love can find the wounded.
Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers to how one finds love again- nor does (my friend) Jen. But, I’ll speak for both of us and say that the only way to find love again is to take chances and never give up hope.
I’ve been with Cubby for 4 months, and while our relationship has its ups-and-downs, I will admit that he has made me believe again. Yes, the guy I met on a random Sunday Funday has stolen my heart and helped me see that love is possible (again).
So if I can do it… despite all of the bad luck, heartbreak, and frustration… SO CAN YOU!!!
I must first admit that it wasn’t until recently that I’ve become a fan of Drew Barrymore. She’s still far from one of my favorite actresses, but lately I’ve found myself respecting her as a person. She’s such a warm, beautiful, honest & free spirit; someone who has a positive outlook on life and truly just lives. I was reading an article on Jennifer Aniston last night and she even commented on the Drew’s demeanor and how it’s impacted her own life: “I love it when people are living in the now, like her. I hate when people look back and regret what they haven’t got. That’s’ how I feel about my own life now.”
In doing a little googling of Drew Barrymore quotes last night and this morning, I came across this one which that agrees with my own personal philosophy on living life with no regrets & learning through every single experience: “I never regret anything. Because every little detail of your life is what made you into who you are in the end.” (Drew Barrymore)
I couldn’t have said it better or more simplistic myself. As I’ve either hinted at or directly said through and outside of this blog, we are the product of our successes, failures, mistakes, friends, loves, heartbreaks, etc. …each and every experience makes us who we are and who we’re becoming. This is something that we much truly believe and accept in order to understand. These aren’t just words: It’s a way of life. Yes, there are absolutely going to be funky, PMS days- but that’s part of life. It’s knowing that you can and will overcome all of the obstacles thrown in your course is what life is all about. As I’m writing this, I’m reminding myself of this truth.
Let me keep going on my love for all things Drew Barrymore- with the exception of that God-awful Home Fries movie. (First movie I ever walked out on.) Anyways, since as far back as I can remember, I’ve been brainwashed to believe that…drumroll please…everything happens for a reason. These were the words that I lived and breathed for years; believing that things are always happening that I cannot control. Okay, this is and is not entirely true. In my Human Relations course, Dr. Shostak switched this statement around to make us understand that we have the control in our hands. He said that ‘we give reason to everything that happens.” While I’d never heard it put that way before, in thinking about it I absolutely agree. Just think about it yourself.
Let me say that I’ve been a girl for 26 1/2 years now and a friend to many others for most of that time, so I’ve probably spent years of my life trying to find a reason as to why things happen. Sometimes it’s as clear as day, while others take years to finally understand it. But as Drew states in the quote box about, it’s important to figure out what the reason (without killing yourself in doing so) because it helps you learn and connect more with the most important person in your life: YOU.
One last Drew quote for you: Life is very interesting… in the end, some of your greatest pains, become your greatest strengths. So true, so true. ♥K