Darlene, one of the loves of my life, always knows the right things to say, even if I don’t know the right question to ask. On Thursday afternoon she knew the right quote to share: Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. ~ William Jennings Bryan. After a short reply of my own, Darlene wrote back: Perhaps because you are making your own destiny, my dear sweet friend 😮
Fate. Destiny.Everything Happens for a Reason. We’ve heard these words a thousand times before and can expect to hear them millions more. And we, ourselves, tend to repeat them too. But what about the words: Do. Take. Go. As in Do What You Want. Take Chances. Go After Your Dreams. Why don’t we use these words more often to instruct & inspire others (and ourselves) about the reality that is known as life?
Today I followed my own words of wisdom by attending Open House for a grad program that would allow me to Do What I Want; Take Chances; and Go After My Dreams. Within the first twenty minutes I found myself overwhelmed with the notion, “this feels right…so it must be right”. Now I say ‘overwhelmed’ because, quite frankly, while everything sounds good and aligns perfectly with my plans, I’m experienced enough to know that life doesn’t always go according to plan. And here I am with Martina McBride’s song, Anyway, playing in my head: But do it anyway. Okay Martina, I will. I’ll take this chance and apply. And I’ll trust that whatever is right, will happen. Whether or not the outcome begins with a “Congratulations!” letter, I have made the choice to do it anyway. Do. Take. Go.
You know, Do. Take. Go. applies to so many other things too. Like Love. While I can surely find reason to argue against love being a choice (ie. fate/destiny), ultimately we do have a choice whom to love. However, we really don’t have a choice over who loves us. In other words, we cannot force someone to love us (back). So what is one to do?
I may not be the best person to answer this question (these days) as I find myself asking others, How do you know if a guy likes you? more times than I’d like to admit. But I’ll try, as much as possible, to tackle the topic from an unbiased perspective. So what is the question again? Oh yeah… what role can we play in getting someone else to like us? There’s only one way to do it: Be Yourself. For some this may be the hardest thing to do, but I believe that it’s easiest when the right person is that hopeful recipient. If you feel like you can be yourself, then, trust me, you know you’ve found the right one.
So to wrap this up (and return back to my application), let me say this: Whether it’s a new job, new boy, or new opportunity, remember that You Always have a Choice. You have the Power to Choose Your Own Destiny. You could spend your whole life waiting…and waiting. But where’s the fun in that? The truth is, Everything Happens for a Reason because YOU make it happen when you take that first step, and then another and another after that.
And one more thing: Those darn butterflies that we love to hate…love them, because they are an indication that something/someone is worth being nervous about. So embrace those butterflies. Do What You Want. Take Chances. Go After Your Dreams.
* I sing * I dream * I love *