I’ve mentioned my friend Alisha before, but I may have failed to explain that she is also my pen pal. Our friendship formed back in January when we met through our online Human Relations class and started exchanging emails. One day she had the best idea ever: Let’s be pen pals! Wait, let me rewrite. Through both our email exchanges and our online course, we’ve discussed how we’re products of our fast-paced technological generations/world. Fact: Emails, Facebook, and text messages are popular ways of communicating. But Alisha and I both agree that there’s nothing better than getting a letter or greeting card from a friend or family member. Sure snail mail isn’t the most time-efficient way of communicating, but in my opinion it’s the best. Back in the day, people used to write letters detailing their most intimate thoughts. Now we post (for all to see) on our Twitter and/or Facebook messages. Lovers used to confess there unconditional love in handwritten, perfume sprayed letters; and now we use 160-character text messages. What gives?
Anyway, forgive my rambling. Back to Alisha. In reading the notebook, Alisha shared this song with me- by one of my favorite (lyrically spoken) bands, The Fray. The lyrics below pertain to a specific topic that we’ve been discussing in our communication, but I won’t indulge you in those details. (Some of you may be able to figure it out on your own.)
Happiness is like the old man told me… Look for it, but you’ll never find it all; But let it go, live your life and leave it; Then one day, wake up and she’ll be home (Happiness, The Fray)
Happiness. It’s something that most people can agree on searching for, but impossible to define. Think to each his own. We discussed this topic throughout our online course, but I’ve also begun reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Ruben. I just discovered a website dedicated to the novel that I recommend taking a look at.
This book allows you to reflect on yourself in order to help you strive towards the happiness that you seek (within yourself). The first rule to remember that you have the right to be happiness and the power to achieve this for yourself. The thing about happiness is that we don’t always know what makes us happy. We may think we do, but it isn’t until we take time to reflect that we can move more closely to figuring it all out.
Going back to the song lyrics above, we are all guilty of believing that one thing (or person) makes us happy, and because this is the case we have a difficult time letting (it) go. But there comes a time when we must let go- as hard as it may be. To achieve happiness, we have to let go of things that hold us back and prevent us from growing. Once you let go, just live: Take chances. Try new things. Do the things you fear.
Along this adventure of self-discovery, you’ll find happiness. One misconception about happiness is that we tend to believe that it’s the destination, while in fact it’s the journey. There is so much beauty in the journey- even those things we deem as mistakes and heartaches- that we inaccurately write-off as failures. It’s usually not until afterwards that we look back and treasure these moments that define us….that make us happy. As always, ♥ K